There’s rubble in the hallway. Dust in the air. Pipes exposed. Wires pulled. Ceilings cracked.
If you walked into this house today, you might think it’s collapsing. But what if I told you—we’re renovating
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The recent UK Supreme Court ruling has shaken the foundation of legal recognition for trans people, affirming that for the purposes of equality law, trans women “do not count as women.” And while headlines still center trans women, let’s be absolutely clear: this affects all of us—trans men, nonbinary folks, and anyone outside the margins of “biological essentialism”.
Journalist Erin Reed’s coverage called it “devastating.” And yes—at a structural level, it is. But structures don’t crumble on their own. And sometimes, as I tell my coaching clients: you don’t get to the penthouse without tearing up the ceilings
We’re not witnessing the death of our rights. We’re witnessing the exposure of the faulty wiring that never could’ve supported the next level.
And that’s where we’re going. Beyond the penthouse.
The noise outside says “collapse.” But if you’re tuned in, you know better: it’s alignment. This moment isn’t a punishment. It’s a response to what no longer fits.
It’s here's where the renovation gets interesting, and where the Law of Assumption comes in—not just as a self-help buzzword, but as the spiritual scaffolding beneath everything we’re building.
We do not experience reality objectively—we experience the out-picturing of what we’ve already assumed to be true. And if we as the whole LGBTQ+ community—globally, historically—have internalized the belief that we are exceptions, complications, intrusions… well, it’s no wonder the structures around us echo that. But those beliefs were never ours. They were inherited. Absorbed. Survived. And now, released.
This is the demolition we didn’t ask for— but maybe the one we’ve needed.
Because I’m not a victim of history. I’m a co-creator of new paradigms. And I’m not alone.
I’m one of thousands of trans elders—yes, elders—who shaped our reality in the days before smartphones, before chat groups, before hashtags, before “nonbinary” had a drop-down menu. I transitioned over 25 years ago, before people like me were legible to the culture, or even to the language. There were no puberty blockers. There were no affirming clinics. There was just a quiet voice inside that said, This is who you are, and a determination to bring the outer world into alignment with that inner truth. I cannot speak on behalf of my other fellow elders. Nor do I speak on behalf of the entire trans community. All I can speak is my own personal truth.
And that’s what this moment is about. Recalibration. Not judgment. Not division. Not a call to retreat—but a call to remember why many of us stepped forward in the first place.
When I transitioned in 1998, there was no social media. No slogans. No hashtags or online think pieces. I wasn’t stepping into a politicized identity—I was stepping into alignment. The outer world finally matched the inner one. And then… I lived. I worked. I coached. I paid bills. I loved people. I helped people. And not because I was trans—simply because I was me.
I say this not to criticize the trans community—or any part of the LGBTQ+ family—but to offer an observation that may or may not resonate: somewhere along the line, visibility shifted from natural presence to radical performance. Not always, not for everyone—but enough that being trans became something that demanded a headline. “First trans person to do X.” “First nonbinary person to do Y.” And while I understand the historical significance, I can’t help but wonder—why should it be remarkable at all?
Would we write an article that says “First left-handed person to become Prime Minister”? Or “First person with freckles to lead a research division”?
Visibility matters—but so does the energy with which we step into the room.
We don't need to arrive with an apology. Or with a flash of defiance. We just need to arrive. Authentically. Steadily. In full knowledge that our being here is not an exception—it is inevitable.
This, my cosmic family, is the moment where we get to redefine what it means to “belong.” Not as an invitation from others, but as a recognition from within. When we move into the penthouse—the new level—we don’t show up humbled and grateful to have finally been "let in." We show up like anyone else does when their name is on the deed:
With keys. With a view. With no need to explain how we got there.
This isn’t about proving we deserve to be here. This is about remembering who you are. A soverign soul energy creating the kind of world where that question is never asked.
Because in truth, there is no "them" and "us." There is only reflection.
The world you see is you—looking back at you. Each person, a mirror. Each moment, an echo. So the next time someone tries to draw a line—between man and woman, binary and nonbinary, valid and not—here’s a gentle reminder: those lines only exist on paper. Not in light. Not in truth. Not in soul.
So let’s be done negotiating our existence. Let’s be done asking to be folded into spaces never designed for us. This is our invitation to build something else entirely. Not a tinted version of an old system—but something cleaner. Softer. Wiser. Something worthy of the rose that’s blooming.
You may not notice it yet. Have faith - it’s unfolding. And so are we.
We’re not just reacting to legal decisions—we’re rebuilding the energetic scaffolding of this world. And what begins in the UK does not end there. Because as journalist Erin Reed rightly noted, what happens in the UK has deep parallels with what’s happening in the United States. The legislative pushbacks. The legal language of exclusion. The appeals to “biological truth.” These are not isolated events. They are shared frequencies.
But that means we can answer with shared stewardship.
If you live in a country where trans rights are affirmed—don’t just protect them. Amplify them. Speak the stories. Celebrate the lives. Imagine trans elders, trans parents, trans joy that isn’t radical but routine.
The more countries—communities, conversations—that hold that vibration, the more magnetic it becomes.
This is not about saviors. It’s about stewards. It’s a tipping point, and each of us is part of the balance.
So when you see dust in the hallway, when the blueprint of your old life looks more ruin than home—remember this: the penthouse is coming. And after that? There’s another floor. And another. In spite of the current reality around us, let's focus our energies on creating our future. We don't want back what's been removed. We're excited about the new, improved version that's coming, and we get a chance to co-create this.
Now is our moment to decide how we want the next chapter to look.
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As these rollbacks are challenged in courts around the world, governments are being called to create new rationales, new structures. And this—this—is where we come in.
Because we don’t want the crumbs of the old system returned to us. We don’t want what was removed—we want what was never built. We want the next level.
And we’re not waiting passively. We're co-designing it.
If we are wise—and I believe we are—we won’t be hypnotized by the present chaos. The dust, the demolition, the exposed framework. No. We'll keep our eyes on the blueprint. Because when these laws are eventually challenged and overturned—when human rights are reinstated—we must be ready with the vision:
We won’t ask to be fit back into a broken binary, slotted politely into someone else’s architecture. We are not anomalies to be accommodated. We are architects of a finer future.
We must not—and cannot—build the new with the same energy that created the old. Because anything built on the energy of shame, apology, or exception must always be maintained by that energy. And we are done shrinking.
This next level must be ours. Authentically, unapologetically, cosmically ours.
Because we’re not simply re-entering an old system—we’re evolving beyond it.
This isn’t about asking for more than others. It’s about asking for better for everyone.
The systems we’re reimagining aren’t just for trans people—they’re for all of humanity. Because the truth is, when one group is held back, everyone is held in limitation.
So no, we’re not looking to be treated as remarkable or exceptional. We’re simply showing up as ourselves—complete, contributive, and unremarkably worthy. What we’re advocating isn’t entitlement. It’s evolution.
This is our moment to decide what the new architecture looks like. We don’t want to be squeezed into dusty frameworks of the past. We are here to bring clarity. Possibility. Expansion. We are catalysts—not by accident, but by design.
It’s time we remembered why we came. It’s time we stopped apologizing for being powerful. This is not the moment we shrink back.
This is the moment we build forward.
My precious souls; this shift isn’t just legal or social. It’s dimensional. Metaphysical. The world is splitting—not in violence, but like a bud in bloom.
And just like a rose, you don’t notice it happening until one day—suddenly—it’s all petals and fragrance and light. What once was tight and unthinkable becomes undeniable.
And that’s the chapter we’re writing now. One micro-shift at a time.
Because the universe is ever-expanding. And so are we.
Home is not what they take from us - Home is what we decide to build next…
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Beautifully written piece. You were courageous to transition when you did. The stars were aligned and you knew it. You didn't hesitate. It was your moment. Bravo!
Beautifully written piece. You were courageous to transition when you did. The stars were aligned and you knew it. You didn't hesitate. It was your moment. Bravo!